What goes around ,comes around .

“If someone isn't what others want them to be, the others become angry. Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own.” ― Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

How easy it is to judge the other ? We judge people and their situations as a routine of the little we have seen of them, and we take the little we have seen as a persons whole personality and character.

For example, we see a woman sitting at the bar alone ,holding a drink. Immediately, our brains start functioning. In a second we assume she is a fast and easy to get cookie. We sum her up as a girl who has no character. We don't stop there. We nudge, we poke just to get the others attention, so we can revel in the assassination of her character and be swept away by our own feeling of false superiority. Never mind if we know nothing about who she really is.

However, something about her attitude or her comfortable demeanor unsettles us, and we don't even blink an eyelid before judging her. We judge, taking the little we have seen of her as her reality. We invade her privacy and give condescending looks while passing by. We cast aspersions on her whole character without perceiving what lies within. People we judge without knowing them from Adam are probably pursuing other endeavors.

Why do we do that ? Could it be an innate desire to put others down ? Is it due to a sense of our own insecurities that we try to cover up ? Whatever the reason, we need to refrain from getting that false sense of superiority. Nobody has the right to cast aspersions on someone else's character ,least of all the people you know nothing about .

Every single person grows up in circumstances that are different from yours. Besides, who has given the authority to judge ? What is the criteria for the judgements ?Who judges your judgement ? How do you know if you are wrong or right ? Look within before pointing fingers at others and ask yourself "Is this really necessary ? Always remember - 'what goes around ,comes around.'

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